I have been guided to discuss the difficult topic that is grief. When we lose someone our world spins into chaos as we attempt wrap our minds around what has occurred. Each person grieves in their own way and deals with loss differently. It’s important to let yourself grieve properly and to know that it is okay (and completely normal) to need help and actively seek it out be it professional or leaning on loved ones. I highly recommend and urge you strongly to reach out and get help especially if you find your grief begins to make it difficult to function in your daily life and/or you have thoughts of hurting yourself, someone else, or thoughts of suicide.
Buddha said “The problem is you think you have time.” Many times loved ones are taken from us too soon in a sudden way. Even if a loved one falls ill and suffers a long sickness I’ve always felt there is never enough time with those we love and care about. Sometimes when we lose someone we end up feeling like we didn’t get the chance to say something to them. This can be especially true if the relationship with the person we lost was not in a good place at the time of their passing. Either way we are left without closure which can make our grief that much harder to heal.
One thing I found to be a valuable experience is an exercise I call “Letters to the Afterlife.” In this exercise you will pour every emotion out and allow yourself to purge every thought and feeling regarding the death of someone you knew. You will write down all of the things you never got to say to them, confessions you never got to make, anger/hurt/resentment you need to express, or to just let them know how much you love them and miss them. This is also a chance to say good bye. I will outline the steps below. The important thing about this exercise is to allow yourself to express everything without censoring anything. Don’t feel like you have to be positive, be as honest as you can, say what you mean and be blunt and direct. Understand that no one else will ever get to read anything you express (as the letter will be burned and destroyed) so let it all out.
Letters to the Afterlife
As you continue work through your healing process things can surface that you may not have thought of when completing the initial exercise that you feel should have been included. You can repeat the exercise if needed. Do not rehash what you said in the in the initial letter repeat the exercise only if you have new/different things that you feel you need the deceased to hear directly in order for you to heal. If things that you already said in the initial exercise still bother I recommend journaling, repeating the mantra at the end of #7 every time you feel bothered by the thoughts, and meditation. If you find you feel overwhelmed by the thoughts/emotions please seek out help, you can begin by talking to a loved one but I strongly recommend professional help especially if you find talking with a loved one does not seem to help you.
If you have any questions or if you find this exercise helpful please sent me an email via our contact form, or leave a comment below! I am happy to help but also love to hear what works for you as it may help others in their own journeys through a difficult time.
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